Opening yourself up to feel good about something is necessarily paired with becoming vulnerable to The Pain Of Loss if it doesn’t work out, or goes away.
In the Plutchik Model Of Emotion, disappointment is dyad emotion created by experiencing both sadness and surprise.
So Why Should I Bother Wanting Things?
Maybe you’re in too much pain right now to want things, teetering on the edge of Emotional Bankruptcy. In such a state, Too Much Pain Stops You From Wanting Things.
But a life well lived should be focused on Maximizing Happiness Rather Than Minimizing Pain.
A Beautiful Sadness
GOTH BOY We’re gonna go to the graveyard and write poems about death and how pointless life is.
BUTTERS Oh no thanks. I love life.
STAN Huh? But you just got dumped.
BUTTERS Well, yeah, and I’m SAD. But at the same time I’m really happy that something can make me FEEL that sad. It’s like… It makes me feel alive, you know? It makes me feel human. The only way I could feel this sad now is if I felt something really GOOD before. So I have to take the bad with the good. So I guess what I’m feeling is like a ‘beautiful sadness’… I guess that sounds stupid.
GOTH BOY Yeah.
— Butters Finds Beauty in His Broken Heart, South Park YouTube